Q - I am not able to forgive myself. Everyday i feel myself as a sinner. I did wrong deeds as a human being to my near and dear ones. I find it very difficult to dettach with past and also to the lower region desires.how to overcome?

-XYZ

First of all you need to understand that feeling guilty from past and not forgiving yourself means you tourchering Your current life then that is also consider as a sin!

Since you did recognize that's whatever did happen was wrong but it was not only your fault, their are other people were involve too so let go guilty feeling and try to forgive yourself and others!

Try to meditate everyday and you will see the result and do mantra at fix time!

You do not need to overcome desire because life itself is a desire so you need to learn to manage the desire , you just need to make your desire to have conscious process and need to bring it in the awareness to it, right now it is in unconscious expression! Just do meditation and you will be able to manage it!

Even break up happen three years ago still the Breaking up with spouse is also a painful process for both and it will take some time to heal for both too! because of memory and attachment but breaking up with oneself  is not a good thing to do, this is the best time to go inward and figure out that outside influence does not effect ones inner happiness!

Blessing!

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The Journey To Self Awareness Through The Bhagavad Gita

Thursday afternoon!
Happy Raksha bandhan to all 

Bhagavad Geeta Sloka 1.7

asmakam tu visista ye
tan nibodha dvijottama
nayaka mama sainyasya
samjnartham tan bravimi te 1.7

TRANSLATION
O best of the brāhmaṇas, for your information, let me tell you about the captains who are especially qualified to lead my military force.

Continue conversation with guru Drona about his army and Pandava army.
Which shows that Duryodhana's state of mind was worried that guru Dhrona would be shoft on his disciples( pandavas) and also by when he says 'my army' which indicates his ego 

Now day to day life message is any anxiety, ego, Fear, worry, stress, anger, all this are negative emotion... Which disturb the mind and person never able to focus on right duty towards swadhrama... And stay confuse.

The Journey To Self Awareness Through The Bhagavad Gita

Bhagavad Geeta Sloka 1.4,  1.5,  1.6

In Bhagavad Gita the most talking or dialogue is within the conversation, so it's helpful to keep follow track... in first two Sloka Sanjaya and Dhritrashtra were talking and third Sloka Duryodhana is talking his guru  Dhrona and this conversation continues as .,.

atra sura mahesv-asa  bhimarjuna-sama yudhi

yuyudhano viratasca   drupadashcha maha-rathah  1.4

Hear in this army are many heroic bowmen equal in fighting to Bhima and Arjuna: great fighter like Yuyudhana, Virata and Druapada.

dhrstaketus  cekitanah kasirajas ca viryavan purujit kuntibhojas ca saibyas ca nara-pungavah1.5

There are also great, heroic, powerful fighters like Dhṛṣṭaketu, Cekitāna, Kāśirāja, Purujit, Kuntibhoja and Śaibya.

yudhamanyus ca vikranta uttamaujas ca viryavan saubhadro draupadeyas ca sarva eva maha-rathah1.6

There are the mighty Yudhāmanyu, the very powerful Uttamaujā, the son of Subhadrā and the sons of Draupadī. All these warriors are great chariot fighters.

-Bgagavad Geeta

Bhagavad Geeta Sloka 1.4,  1.5,  1.6

Day to day life message!
Following our swadharma, and knowing and managing our attachment, emotion, anger, fear, worry, ahankara, dislike, hatred, favoritism etc.. With in the family and any relationship.. It's about one perspective towards each other.
yes, we can see that in both parties even though they were family and some of them were friends, relatives and still in both parties some became enemies, some who decided to choses sides, some of them supporting and thinking just like guru Drona... who supported both side lovingly, but still decided to stay one side because of duty and dharma, the righteousness.
So it does remind that life is always changing, meaning day to day life never stays the same, which meaning in any relationship or situation in family, friends or society at large, which give us pleasure and fun today may change in any seconds and turn into a painful relationship or situation at any point. or may change to pleasure or joyful either way, does not matter!! So the best is not to get attach with pain and pleasure in any relationship or situation but following our !Swadharma, duty, righteousness and  observing the pain and pleasure is the way to feel at peace. Of course with love and care otherwise it will become burden!

Hello Mrs Shah

I am so tired physically and mentally. I feel there is no one by my side. Even the extended family which is from my husband side. On one hand they support and on another hand they just drop you. Don't they understand that on my own how much can I do. They use to keep in touch via phone even that they don't do anymore. Sometimes I feel that could it be me or what, may be I might have done something wrong. I am just in this four walls alone. My husband also keeps shouting and you know my views towards him. I feel like leaving everyone and run, run and run. Please I don't know what to do. Everything has come together. Even my children are fed up. Why people do this to hurt me. How long will I have to put up with this. I am very sorry to burden you with this but you are the only one who understands. I bless you from bottom of my heart and thank you again for listening. 

-XYZ 

A- Please do realize that everyone has their own issues in their journey that they might don't understand you at this time! Now in order to see why they acting this way, we must know ourselves first!

giving reaction to their action will not help!!

when we hurt we always blame others but in reality it's our own emotions that attaches with expectation! So if things goes wrong we hurt and if things goes well we happy, instead we should try to stay balance in both situation! 

Running away from the situation or people is not the solution because we need to accept the people as they are and break the pattern but not the people ! 

Struggles and challenges in each and every situation will make you a stronger person , only then we learn well! again remember each and every being is instrument for our spiritual growth! 

Eventually we will learn to grow within, where the outside environment will not affect us!

Continue to meditate, breathing technique and mantra.. Trust the power of the God!! 

Blessing!

Parul Shah 

Hello Mrs Shah

I am so tired physically and mentally. I feel there is no one by my side. Even the extended family which is from my husband side. On one hand they support and on another hand they just drop you. Don't they understand that on my own how much can I do. They use to keep in touch via phone even that they don't do anymore. Sometimes I feel that could it be me or what, may be I might have done something wrong. I am just in this four walls alone. My husband also keeps shouting and you know my views towards him. I feel like leaving everyone and run, run and run. Please I don't know what to do. Everything has come together. Even my children are fed up. Why people do this to hurt me. How long will I have to put up with this. I am very sorry to burden you with this but you are the only one who understands. I bless you from bottom of my heart and thank you again for listening. 

-XYZ 

A- Please do realize that everyone has their own issues in their journey that they might don't understand you at this time! Now in order to see why they acting this way, we must know ourselves first!

giving reaction to their action will not help!!

when we hurt we always blame others but in reality it's our own emotions that attaches with expectation! So if things goes wrong we hurt and if things goes well we happy, instead we should try to stay balance in both situation! 

Running away from the situation or people is not the solution because we need to accept the people as they are and break the pattern but not the people ! 

Struggles and challenges in each and every situation will make you a stronger person , only then we learn well! again remember each and every being is instrument for our spiritual growth! 

Eventually we will learn to grow within, where the outside environment will not affect us!

Continue to meditate, breathing technique and mantra.. Trust the power of the God!! 

Blessing!

Parul

The Journey To Self Awareness Through The Bhagavad Gita

Bhagavad-Gita Sloka 1.3
pashyaitaam  paanduputraanaam aacharya mahateem chamoom
vyoodhaam  drupadaputrena tava shishyena dheemataa |1.3
Behold, O Teacher, this mighty army of the sons of  Pandu, arrayed by the son of Drupada, your wise disciple.
-Bhagavad Gita

In first two Slokas Sanjaya and Dhritrashtra were talking ( conversation),
now in this Gita Sloka 1.3
Duryodhana is talking to his Guru Drona.
What exactly he is saying to guru Drona ?
Duryodhana was reminding him that Drupada's son is standing the opposite side of war and he wanted to make sure that Drona was enough motivated to fight against his student the Pandava or is he become weak for favoring his students because of soft caring towards them.

Meaning... Duryodhana himself was emotionally agitated because of his own fear.
so he tried to disturb dronas's mental calmness and emotion.

So the practical message for day to day life..
1)for any decision in life.. we can only provide the best decision if we balance our emotion.
2) when we feel our emotion calm, then it's best way to help ourself and practical way out of any situation.
3) understanding the favoritism in our life either for people or any situation makes our thinking power more clearer and easy.